We have three sons, two of whom are homosexuals. When our
eldest son was 18, he told us he was gay. My husband's
response was simple: "Are you sure?"
I, on the other hand, had a great sense of guilt and
failure, wondering where we had gone wrong. We have always
been a close and loving family, and I worried whether the
relationship with our eldest son would suffer as a result of
I also had a great concern for his future happiness and
well-being, as did my husband. I soon realized that our son
was the same person I had always known and loved, but
through his honesty I now knew more about him.
But understanding came later, after our son directed us to
Parents of Gays. I no longer felt alone; new windows of
understanding were opened by asking questions, listening and
reading. It was a difficult but positive stage in my life,
which took time and
I am happy to say that today our family is as close as ever,
relationship is more open and honest than before.